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Forgiveness: July 2022

This month we will be exploring Forgiveness. Holding on to grudges and anger affects our vibration and joy. forgiveness allows our hearts to lighten. forgiveness is a choice we can make for our own self love.

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FORGIVENESS

The Art of Forgiveness

The Art of Forgiveness is an opportunity to redeclare and reclaim our relationship to our past and therefore our present and future. To live forgiven is a gift we give ourselves. Join the Art of Forgiveness to find out what’s there to forgive and be forgiven for.

Coming from a background in health & wellness start-ups, Vicky Aldana has since pivoted and is now a Professional Certified Coach (PCC). With years of training and study in various schools and organizations, her lineage is the Orgasmic Meditation path and continues to avidly practice as a 4 year practitioner. She is also a certified diviner, drawing from West African spirituality to inform her methodology. When she is not coaching or training life coaches, she is practicing yoga, reading, traveling to new countries, and scouting out guests for her podcast, The Voices of Wisdom Project. You can learn more at vickyaldana.com. Vicky is also an Advanced Rainbow Warrior Graduate!

Homework

JOURNAL QUESTIONS

  1. Who are you ready and willing to forgive?
  2. Who are you not willing to forgive and why?
  3. What does forgiveness mean to you?
  4. Is there anything you are holding on to that you haven’t forgiven yourself for?
  5. How do you think  you will feel after you forgive someone or something you’ve been holding on to? (body, mind and spirit)

EXERCISES

PART 1: On a separate piece of paper make a physical list of every single thing that has been done to you that you can’t forgive. Things that you are holding onto and incidents that have played on your mind for years.

It can be big or small, specific or general. Start with your parents – that’s always a fertile ground for material!

Think about your life chronologically and work your way through any traumatic events, childhood hurts, mistakes made by your family and embarrassments that still create a negative charge for you.

Just write down “When mom did this….” or “The time when…”. You don’t have to write an essay about each one.

 Once you’ve written down everything obvious, think about:  

  • Every relationship problem you’ve ever had
  • Mean bosses who criticized you, made you feel bad or made you cry
  • Friends who were nasty or bitchy to you
  • Strangers who made you feel bad by making a horrible comment
  • A teacher who embarrassed you

 Write it all down.

 Lastly, it’s time to make a list of things to forgive yourself for. This is a really important list because you’d be surprised how much you are beating yourself up for past mistakes. A really small and stupid error you made 5, 10 or even 20 years ago could be holding you back from going out of your comfort zone today.

 Here are some examples to get you started:

You failed something really important, You mean-girled someone at school and it still haunts you, The time you dumped someone really nice in a really horrible way, Gossiping or bitching behind someone else’s back, When you made someone cry (unintentionally or not), You accidentally hurt an animal, You stole something – no matter how small, You cheated on a test

 Nobody is 100% perfect and even if you think you’re the only person who’s made these mistakes, you could be making it mean: I’m not a worthy person, I don’t deserve nice things to happen to me, I’m a failure

 Do you really want to hang onto that anymore? 

PART 2: THE SIMPLE PROCESS

Mentally affirm to that person or situation: I forgive you, I’m sorry, And I love you.

 That’s it. You can spend a couple of second on each one and then move on. Don’t get caught up in the emotion. You are only saying the mantra and releasing the memory. You may feel an overwhelming outpouring of sadness, but just continue the mantra.

 I forgive you… evaporates the energy of resentment you hold towards them

I’m sorry… allows you to feel compassion for their side of the story

I love you… balances the energy, sends love to the situation and releases you from being the victim.

 Allow emotions to bubble up and tears to flow but keep going until you’ve exhausted the list (and yourself).

 I forgive you, I’m sorry and I love you.

Forgiving is for giving the pain a way out of your heart.